Well I was waiting for Jowy to slam me first before posting but I'll put my main thoughts down now.
1) The game was as good as over when I took over. Kyan was already powering miles ahead because Strike & Jowy had embroiled themselves in a stupid war which had damaged my civ seriously.
2) The position I was given by Strike was pretty awful. It was on a par with my play in PBEM3, with poorly positioned cities and a seriously struggling economy. The early war was suicidal and tbh he was seriously lucky that Jowy gave him a long NAP (roughly 50 turns I think) when in my eyes, he could have probably finished him or at least extorted more out of him.
3) With this situation, I simply had to focus everything on getting some semblance of an economy going whilst keeping militarily relevant. That left me incapable of making any strike on Kyan as I didn't have the forces to do so, or the support.
4) While it was obvious that Kyan was running away with it, I received no emails for a long, long time suggesting that we do anything about it. I wasn't going to propose it as I had the most to lose and the least to give to an attack. With this silence, I was left with no option.
5) With no support forthcoming, I then started to actively court Kyan. We have a good rapport which made things easier, but given his runaway status I wouldn't have been surprised or blamed him if he had simply ignored me and crushed me at will. Given the option of a stupidly suicidal attack on Kyan with no declared support and coming dead last, or building an alliance with the leader and gain a massive amount of support for an attack on my other neighbour and perhaps come in the top three with Kyan crushing everyone else, I had absolutely no choice. Jowy can bitch all he wants about it (as I am sure he will, and did in some unpleasant emails) but given the same choice, he would have done exactly the same.
6) I chose to vassalise in the end because it was the only way to preserve myself. I had built up a large army with a lot of Kyan's help but I lost it due to being beaten by a worthy opponent who out-manoeuvred me from the start. With no army and the chance that Tatan could attack me and kill me, I vassalised to guarantee that Kyan would defend me and press on to take on Tatan. I also was led to believe that it would bring about the end of the game, so that was another good reason to vassalise.
On the players:
Kyan - a very good ally who assisted me 100% when he could have simply crushed me at will at pretty much any point. Given a little bit of an easy ride early doors to assure victory, but he made the most of it and was truly dominant. Should've been in the vets game
seifer - I don't think we spoke much, if at all, but kudos to you for maintaining a pretty good civ which is always praiseworthy. Had Kyan been challenged more effectively from the start, you could well have had a chance of contesting victory.
malakai & Cull - we barely talked again but GG to you both. An apology to Cull as my hard work to get Kyan on my side ended up with him turning his military on you.
Jowy - no comment
Tatan - it was truly great fun to spar with you. You outclassed me on the battlefield in the fights that matter, but my massive naval invasion made me feel so much better. Truly the most hilarious moment in my civ history! It was fun playing 'Chase the Axe' and other various skirmishes with fun unit names. Would be happy to play another game with you in the future where we don't start as enemies, I imagine fun would still be very much present in our dealings!